I used to be a nutritionist. I’d write lengthy protocols for clients, listing supplements and foods they could eat to help heal their high blood pressure, or their diabetes, or their depression.
What they didn’t know, was that what needed healing was their happiness.
They could live on a diet of seeds and organic spinach and drop the weight, clear up their skin, and have more energy. But when it came down to it, those results usually weren’t enough. They were left still feeling a hunger for something more, and often diets (even whole foods non-diet diets) fail because people reach their goal, and they still have a deep wound within them. They figure if they’re gonna be unhappy either way, they may as well be allowed to stuff their faces with Oreos, so they turn to food again.
There’s this thing called the arrival fallacy, a belief that once you reach a certain destination or goal, you’ll be happy. Once you lose that last 20 pounds, or quit the job you hate, or find a boyfriend, you’ll be totally blissed out and will stay that way for the rest of your days.
It’s been called a fallacy because it’s not true (duh). Life’s a journey, not a destination, and all that jazz.
If you don’t do the work to get to the core of what’s bringing you down, you’ll always be searching, searching, searching without a flashlight for the next goal, the next achievement, to fill the gaping hole that you’re neglecting, somewhere deeper inside you.
As a nutritionist, I learned that a diet of kale + quinoa will not solve all of your problems.
And as a coach, I’ve learned that it’s not often the outcome of a choice itself that brings a person happiness. Rather, it’s who they become in the process of living life by choice that leads to the deeper changes necessary to bring sustainable happiness.
What I always loved about nutrition was that it was a way for people to consciously choose how they wanted to live their lives. More than the wacky new health foods or the long list of vitamins and minerals, what makes the biggest impact is the CHOICE you are making to step up and live your life the way you want it to be lived. Without this conviction, kale + quinoa are going to taste bitter (No seriously. Have you had kale lately? Though let’s face it, it’s not nearly as bas as arugula. Ugh)
Do the work to figure your shit out, and I promise, the weight will melt off, the perfect partner will show up, and you won’t be doomed to a life of always looking for your next sugar hit.
My version of “figuring your shit out” is helping people figure out their perfect Uncaged career – the one that lets them live on their own terms. Hit me up here to figure out yours.