I talk with a lot of people who want big things out of life. Whether it’s my own clients, or my own coaches, or my peers. I also follow a lot of people online through various Facebook groups, websites, blogs, and twitters. Travellers. Entrepreneurs. Adventurers. They run the gamut of successful, and not-so-much.
And it’s become really, insanely clear to me exactly what the difference is between those who make their big dreams happen, and those who don’t.
The difference between the guy who keeps saying he wants to sell his house and buy a round the world plane ticket, and the guy who actually does it.
The difference between the coach who is still struggling to get clients, and the one who makes 6-figures from her business.
The girl who complains about her soul sucking job every single day but doesn’t do a thing to change it, and the girl who quits jobs left and right, never settling on anything that doesn’t make her happy.
What’s the difference between people who “make it” and those who sit back, watching those people in total envy? What’s their dirty little secret?
People who make their dreams happen BELIEVE that what they want is possible. Sure, they feel fear, and self-doubt, and uncertainty, but somewhere deep inside, they KNOW that they can make it happen. So they don’t get sucked into believing all the crap that the voices in their heads throw their way.
And sure, there’s a little more that goes into it than just confidence.
If you’re building a business, you MUST learn sales and marketing. But the people who believe it’s possible, they don’t mind investing in their business.
And if you wanna travel the world with nothing but a backpack, you’re going to need to do some planning. But the people who eventually get there don’t mind going through the nitty gritty steps, because they KNOW it’s going to pay off.
I know this sounds like hullhonkey. You might be thinking I’ve gone all woo-woo on your ass. Kinda like this.
For the record – that’s not what I’m saying. It’s not about the law of attraction or simply thinking really hard about what you want and having it magically appear at your doostep. What I’m saying is that the very first step, the Most Important Thing, is believing that it’s possible (and if thinking really hard about what you want, or using the law of attraction helps you do that, cool, have at it).
Because when you believe that it’s possible, you put in the effort and take the steps to get there.
Simple as that. Mindset leads to consistent action, which leads to you doing whatever you need to do to get “there”
Ask yourself, right now, “Do I really believe that I can have whatever I want?”
And if the answer is no (or a head scratching schmaybe?), you might wanna check in on what you believe, and get really super clear about why, exactly, you don’t think you can have it.
Need help sorting it out and boosting your confidence? Here’s where to start:
1. Surround yourself with people who “get it”. Immerse yourself in blogs and websites of people who are doing what you want to do. Talk to people who have done it. Research your brains out, and create a support structure that actually helps you see that what you want IS possible.
2. Get really clear about the voices in your head that tell you it’s not possible. Take note of exactly what they are saying, and when. Start to learn to pay attention to the voice, and think of it as a separate part of you, one that you can shoo away by will when it starts bringing you down. Even just recognizing that this voice is there and what it’s saying is a great step to help you learn to NOT listen to it.
3. Work with me for 3 months. My clients leave feeling like they can do it, like their dreams are easy, and often, they leave having accomplished in 3 months what they’ve wanted to do their entire lives. My clients write the books they’ve wanted to write since they were 10 (and get it done in 8 weeks… I’m not joking). They quit the jobs they’ve hated for years. They start their websites. They get their first clients. They book the plane tickets. They get shit DONE.
You’ve totally got this. I promise. I was exactly where you were, wishing I could build an online business, but procrastinating on getting started because I didn’t have the right mindset about it. I see this ALL the time with my clients, and people who email me through Uncaged, and watching other business owners, and working with my own coaches.
It’s ALL about mindset. Everything.
So breathe a sigh of relief. You’re not missing out on some secret that will help you get there.
This is the only magic success formula out there that works.