Figure It Out Friday’ is a
new weekly blog series where you submit your questions and struggles about designing your Uncaged life and business – and I give you my straight up advice. Because sometimes you just want someone to tell you what to do.
I’m turning 23 in one month. I’m smart, make friends easily, and am working my way through college. Problem is, I don’t know what to do with my life! Oh, I know what I ENJOY, but I don’t know how to make money doing it. I want to travel, own my own cottage in the mountains, and write novels. I don’t want to work for anyone (unless some dream job pops up that makes it worth it). I want stability with the opportunity to shake things up by flying across the world.
But most of all, I want to have a purpose. A goal I’m excited to work for. I’ve forgotten what passion feels like. Help!
I’m going to keep this so mega simple that it might frustrate some of you. My advice might piss you off. But I’ll take that chance, because it’s what I really believe. It’s what I take a stand for in my business, and in my life.
I have been exactly where this reader is. I was 24, finished University, and when everyone else was busy applying for jobs, I was buying a plane ticket to Australia to hang out for a year. Everyone asked me “What about work?”
“I’ll work when I’m there” I said. Which I did.
But more importantly – who the fuck cares about work!? I’m 24, I just finished 4 brutal years of University, and I want to have some fun. Work can wait.
And it did. For about 7 years.
Sure, I worked odd jobs in the meantime – waiting tables, teaching English overseas, and other jobs that gave me the flexibility and adventure I wanted in my lifestyle. But none of them were “career jobs”, at least not for me. (I thought they might be. Like that time I became a travel agent. Turns out selling trips to other people is not NEARLY as exciting as taking them myself)
And if I learned anything during that time, it’s that you can’t try so hard to figure it out. The number of people that come to me saying they have been to career counsellors and still haven’t figured it out, is striking.
People come to me all the time saying they want to travel and explore the world, and if only they could figure out a job that would let them do that. And what that says to me is “You’re not ready to figure it out.”
You have to be ready to want to work. You have to be ready to commit to something (even if that commitment changes).
Until then – be free. Play. Travel. Make just enough money to buy your plane ticket, and work small jobs abroad.
Those life experiences aren’t taking away from you figuring it out – they are a critical part of it.
The more you can stop trying so hard to come up with an answer, the more likely it is that the answer will just come to you. Because let me tell you – the WORST thing in the world is working when all you want to be doing is travelling. It sucks. Bigtime
And if you’re someone who IS ready to commit, ready to figure out how you can create the lifestyle you want while working for yourself, someone who is ready to put the hard work into making that a reality, click here to get my free training on how to figure out WTF business you should start.
And as a final piece of homework for the person asking this question – it sounds like you’re asking for help figuring out your “passions”. And even just with the small amount of info I have in your question, I can see that you already know what they are. You are passionate about travel, about writing (or maybe creative expression in general), about being in nature, about exploration.
So do those things, and see where they lead you! They don’t have to be a job just yet. There is life after college that doesn’t involve heading right into the workforce.
Giving yourself the time to explore those things you love doing – that’s how you will figure out what the hell to do with your life. And it sounds like WAY more fun than taking any of those crazy career tests, right?