How To ACTUALLY Make Changes in 2014 (hint: it’s not by making goals or resolutions or intentions)

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It’s the start of a New Year tomorrow, and if you want to make really big changes next year, there are a few things you need to do, and they are not the same things that you’re seeing out there from oh, just about everyone.

I’m not going to tell you to set goals (not SMART goals, not BHAG goals, not any kind of goals).

I’m not going to tell you to make resolutions, or extravagant plans.

I’m not going to tell you to scrap both of those and try intentions instead.

I’m not certainly not going to tell you to do your affirmations.

Because all of that? Is just fluff. It’s for people who don’t get shit done naturally, and need to use 2014 as a re-do after all the stuff they DIDN’T accomplish last year. That’s ok. You’re not a bad person if you operate this way. You’re just trying to do what every business and life guru tells you THEY did to make $100k or move to their dream home or quit their job or buy the llama farm of their dreams.

But the problem with that is that it’s THEIR way.

 

Want to know what actually works? Knowing who you are and what’s important to you, and then DOING it.

 

You’re not a child who needs to be told what to do. You don’t need another strategy or gimmick or outline.

You need to zero in and learn to do things YOUR WAY.

Here’s what I want for you in 2014:

To trust yourself more.

To love yourself more.

To believe in yourself more.

And to get to a point through all of that where you are naturally motivated to do the things you have set out to do (no lists, no intentions, no affirmations required).

And how do you do that? By taking risks. By going out on a limb. By not doing what you said you would do if it doesn’t work for you anymore. by saying yes more. And no more. By starting before you’re ready. By making big decisions in an instant, based on only your gut feeling and a glass of wine.

Because the more you do that? The more you won’t need to worry about setting goals and intentions and resolutions  – you’ll just naturally start to do all the things you want to do. And before you know it, a year will go by and you’ll have achieved WAY more than was on your silly list in the first place.

I should know. It’s how I run my life.

Happy New Year. I’m more excited than a kid on Pop Rocks to watch you kill it in business and life in 2014.

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Read 10 Comments & Leave Yours

  1. This is awesome, Becca! Thank you! I normally operate without a list. I hate “to do” lists. I love to be spontaneous, adventurous and unrestrained. For me, things get more creative that way. It’s true, we’re not children to be told what to do. If you know you gotta do something then just do it, stop procrastinating!  :) 
    Happy New Year!!

  2. LucieDalessandro

    Loved this so much I had to email AND comment, Becca. (What a nerd.) Needed to hear this as a control freak in recovery and as someone so over making the same freaking intentions every year. It’s all about what we DO do, aye? x

  3. LucieDalessandro Thanks so much Lucie!! If the same goals you set last year still aren’t accomplished, there’s likely something else going on, and setting the same goal again probably isn’t the answer anyway!

  4. Carmen28 So true! Sometimes I make lists, but then i lose them immediately or forget I ever wrote them. Funny thing – when I find those old lists months/years later, it’s not uncommon that everything on it got accomplished anyway!

  5. jcr_studios

    This is the BEST new year’s advice + blog I’ve seen! I’ve had to figure this out on my own, after many years of beating myself up and wondering what the hell was wrong with me… wondering, why can’t I get sh** done like everyone else? I’m getting a sense more and more that “creatives” (like myself) sometimes require more freedom, less rigidity, within their timeline. 
    By the way, I’m new to your site and I’m loving it… it’s refreshing and authentic. Thanks again Rebecca!

  6. jcr_studios Thanks!! I definitely need less rigidity. I work in BURSTS, and spent a ton of time dong nothing and then do everything at once. It’s no one else’s business to tell you how you “should” work! WHere’d you find me jcr_studios ?

  7. jcr_studios

    Rebecca Traceyjcr_studiosThat sounds A LOT how I work as well. Especially my mornings! I appreciate the confirmation that it’s okay to work this way… I actually find comfort knowing that others are similar. This is why I could no longer tolerate a 9-5 desk job with the 1/2 hr lunch break – it was absolutely soul-sucking!

    Sandra Moore, a client of mine (I branded her new biz :)), speaks very highly of you and as a fellow B-Schooler I thought I’d sign up for your newsletters! Thanks again!!

  8. jcr_studios Rebecca Tracey ohh EXCITING! I love Sandra (and I actually hired her last year and do sessions with her once in a while). Can’t wait to see your work on her new site!!

  9. jcr_studios

    Rebecca Traceyjcr_studiosYes, I thought so because I noticed your lovely testimonial :) Sandra’s fabulous and I’m so excited for her to launch her “baby”!

  10. BrightLilSocks

    Thanks. This was juuust what I needed to hear. I was wondering why I didn’t feel inspired to dream big and go crazy with goal setting this year and reading this made it clear that goals might just not be what I need right now. I’m actually on hiatus, taking time off from everything to do what you wrote above: Love, trust, believe in myself more. Sounds like a plan to me. :)

    Also: Getting more and more excited about Catalyze every day!!