WHAT IS REAL LIFE?
I am off to Belize and Guatemala for the next 3 weeks to run two business retreats, and I have been thinking about what we always tell the retreat participants on the last day of the retreat.
You know the last days of a vacation, when everyone starts saying they have to go “back to reality” or “face real life again” when they get home?
We always make a point to tell the retreat participants to remember that this IS real life. They are there, with us in the jungle, working on business, planning the work they will do when they get home. It’s real. It’s ALL real.
And yes, when they get home they will have to maybe go back to their other job, or get back to taking care of their kids, or to their relationship that isn’t feeling so hot right now, or any other number of “real life” duties.
But the jungle? The work we are doing? And the laptop-based business? And the freedom that comes with bring your own boss? These are not just pipedreams.
This is my real life. And my retreat co-leaders real lives. And past retreat participants real lives. And my clients’ real lives.
It might take you a short amount of time or a long amount of time to get there. It might feel easy or it might feel hard. But it’s ALL possible. It’s within your reach. It is NOT just a dream reserved only for “those other people who have it all together”. It’s for you, if you want it to be.
One retreat participant left her two 18mo old TWINS at home to focus JUST on herself and her dream for the week with us in Belize. One took her only week vacation from her full time job to join us. Everyone made a sacrifice, and everyone made it happen. Because they are committed to changing what their real life looks like. Because they know it’s not just a dream.
And while it’s not always easy, it is always possible. And that’s what you need to remember. If this shit was easy, everyone and their mom would be an online business owner, working 4 hour work weeks while sipping mojitos and posting amazing pictures of their amazing lives on Instagram.
But it’s not easy. There are sacrifices. There are long days. I think I’ve spent a total of 60 hours/week at my desk for the past month (or more). I’ve started and ended relationships since my business started. I’ve moved houses (multiple times). I’ve been sick. I’ve been stressed. I’ve lost touch with some of the other things I love in my life (and then found them… and then lost them again). I’ve been an emotional wreck. I’ve questioned whether it was worth it. Whether I could do it. Whether I was worthy enough, or capable enough, or strong enough, or wanted it enough. And I’ve been the exact opposite – high on life, in love with my work, travelling the world, staying in at home watching Netflix on a Wednesday afternoon with no pants on JUST BECAUSE I CAN.
And all of this – it’s real life, whether you have a business or not. There are shitty times and there are great times. You feel on top of the world and then you are crying on the bathroom floor, unsure of your next move.
And the thing to realize if you want this life is that if this business is real life, it’s not immune to those bumps in the roads. The rest of your life affects your business. And vice versa. Your business is a part of your life and you will need to learn how to sustain it during the ups and downs.
It’s not easy, but it’s possible. It takes work, but it’s possible.
So remember. When it’s feeling like it’s never going to happen, or you’re not sure if it’s just some crazy dream, and no one else around you understands what you’re working towards, and it all feels really hard – it’s real life, and it’s possible, and you will get there, if you want it badly enough.
Here’s to uncaged folks everywhere working hard for their dreams – we’ve got each other’s backs,