I Moved To The Dominican! Here’s How I Made It Happen.

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I’m sweating right now. Which is a problem for my all-natural deodorant. I may have to upgrade.

Anyway. Why am I sweating?

Because I live in the Dominican biz-natches! And it’s bloody hot here.

 

I up and moved here from Toronto exactly one week ago. I made the decision to move here exactly 3 weeks before that.

 

Ane people keep asking me:

“Why the Dominican?”

“How did you decide?”

“What drew you to the DR?”

“How many places did you research before deciding?”

And my answer is probably a liiiiittle different than they are expecting.

“Dunno. Was just easy”.

Places I researched = nada.

Amount of research I did about Santo Domingo, the city I live in = nada.

Basically, I have a few friends here from the climbing community, and one of them was all like “Becca – you should just move here! You can live in my house!”

And I was all like “Ok!”

And that was that. Easy. Done.

Sure, it’s not my ideal location (I’d rather be on a beach, obvz). It might not even be my ideal country – there are places higher on my list than the DR (shhh, don’t tell it I said that!).

And I could have spent weeks researching all the possibilities, looking at the weather, checking prices for cost of living + flights, checked out the local expat scene in each city, asked friends what they thought, spent hours googling and scouring travel forums for info on the BEST place to go.

Or I could choose to do it the easy way.

 

Not everything has to be so difficult.

 

Not every decision needs hours of researching, agonizing, pro-/con-ing. When you’re in analyzing mode, your brain literally has no room to make good decisions. You’re busy stressing yourself out with worrying about all the little details, and the bigger picture (not to mention the FUN of the whole thing!) gets lost.

Sometimes, you just have to make a decision and roll with it. If it’s the wrong one, it’s the wrong one. No biggie. You course correct, you move on, and you learn something from it.

Point being: I didn’t get here by spending months stressing over it, making sure it was the perfect choice. Besides – we all know that puts wayyy too much pressure on it, which usually leads to disappointment. Which leads to sadness. Which leads to binge eating dulce de leche (and god knows there is enough of that going on here already).

Stop making everything so precious – pick something you want and go for it.

 

Because while you’re sitting around agonizing over it, someone else is out there living it.

 

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Read 19 Comments & Leave Yours

  1. stephmccormack

    ” Stop making everything so precious – pick something you want and go for it.” ….LOVE THIS!

  2. helenation

    Soooo true!

  3. kate_marolt

    AWESOME!! Just got back from some time in Costa Rica… so fun. Get to the beach when you can! Love this post.

  4. freedomwalker

    Love your closing line in this blog! I was just telling a friend today about my cool colleague (aka uncaged Becca) and how she’s created a location independent biz.

  5. AnnaLong

    Whenever I find myself dragging my feet about decisions I seriously often think “Becca would totally just make a decision and go for it!” You are amazing at that. The “queen of doing” if you will :)
    Get that camping pad blown up I’m gonna come visit!

  6. AinslieGreig

    I think the great thing about making decisions in this way (I mean, other than it being awesome/making life more fun), is that the more times you do it…the easier it gets. The more it just becomes the way you do things.

  7. Yes!  I am so glad for you!  
    I love the feel of this: “No biggie, course correct, and move on”…and the last line…wow, powerful.  I used to be a jumper.  Then I got umm… a *big ouch*…. and took last year to heal, now I’m ready to jump again.  Thank you for choosing to move, and for reflecting that here in this space.

  8. AnnaLong

    AinslieGreig I could not agree more!

  9. stephmccormack Ahhh I love it too!  I’m kind of sick of everything have to be TOTALLY in line with your purpose and your values and your life’s work etc etc.. YES, that stuff is super important, but not if it’s holding you back because you have to find the EXACT right way to go about doing something!

  10. kate_marolt Niiiiiice! I’ll hopefully get to the beach soon!

  11. freedomwalker Muchas gracias!! xo

  12. AnnaLong Ack, that means SO much to be! I LOVE being “The Queen Of Doing”. That definitely describes me. I make shit happen. And I love helping other people make shit happen!

  13. AinslieGreig says the girl who up and moved to London (the good one!) ;)

  14. JoyChristin Yes, jumping is not always the best way to go about things… glad to hear you are back in the game though ;)

  15. elloaatkinson

    You absolutely rock, girl! (No pun intended)
    Blown away by your attitude, it’s a bit ‘leap before you look’, and I like that. Enjoy the sweat-inducing sun!!
    I
    meanwhile am deliberately NOT agonising over my assessment today. Just
    gonna go in, be present, and attempt to enjoy the thing xx

  16. I so hear you… and if I were not “saddled” (I mean this in the most loving way) with a husband and family I would so just pick up and DO.

  17. elloaatkinson Not sure what the assessment, is, but good luck!! You got it- go in, be present, and do it!

  18. Which came first, the problem or the solution? Luckily it doesn’t matter.

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